This morning my head full of some thoughts about dating a foreigner, cause in the office where I work as an internship, some articles talk about “Dating A Foreign Guy”. Fyi, I work at Detik.com one of the most popular news company in Indonesia. Psst, let’s skip it.
As we know it will get so many Pros and Cons if we talk about it. So many people will think it is nice to date a white man, but in other hand they will just think negative about it. Well, for me love will come to you whether you are ready or not, you never ask about it, but it is just come when the right time is on your hand. Love will comes to you no matter how many time you try to deny it, no matter with local man or foreigners, love is love. Nothing’s different.
Here’s what I think about a foreign man; They are smart, loving, generous and exciting – but some people think they are defiant, tactless, infuriating, crafty and crazy. Foreign men are all different, but some of their characteristics stand out for all to see.
What makes them irresistible? According to Mpho Ngwekazi, a relationship and marriage counsellor in Johannesburg, most foreign men are brought up to be responsible. She says foreign boys are taught to take charge and take risks, get into fights, know their territory and to protect it and everyone in it. Some local women would not dream of dating a foreigner, but increasingly, and in greater numbers, locals are marrying or dating foreigners.
Dating a person from another country is definitely an exciting experience. On the other hand, there are actually positive aspects along with negatives involved in it.
It has different feeling when you date a white man. You can feel freedom being with them. I do not mean to make some comparison but if you ask me to choose which one I would like to date, I would choose foreign guy. You will see thousand call or message on your phone while you go out with your girls or boys if you date a local man, but with Foreigner you won’t receive such a thing. They are truly awesome and smart. You can pass such a lovely and best moment ever with them. You will always have good topic to keep the conversation going, and I swear to walk hand in hand with them is just the most beautiful thing in this world. But, as an Indonesian girl you have to ready for everyone that will keep staring at you and your white man while you both hanging out together. I know what’s on their mind; they always have negative thing to say to us – who dates white man. They think you just want them to buy you the most expensive jewelry, Louis Vuitton, Loubotion, Hermes bags, or other branded stuffs. Or they may think yo date him because their social status (it refers to their job whether as an expatriate in famous company or he has great job in his home country). Well they will always have something bad to say about you. Just keep smiling to those jealous eyes. You may think how could I know that? Ehm, I experienced it with my ex foreign man.
I think you don’t have to worry being in LDR, cause everything seems so easy to do in this millenium era. You can still feel he is so close yet so far. The key of relationship is to trust each other, keep communicating and be honest. That is enough to keep it works. No matter being in LDR or not, communication is always the key in a rellationship, eh?
Due to the advent of the Internet, more and more people are now getting themselves involved in a relationship with another person that is in a different country and with a different nationality. This is the main reason why social network sites like Facebook are getting more popular, aside from the fact that it helps to connect two people that are in this long-distance relationship setup. But before you date a foreign man in a different country, it is best that you first understand the advantages and disadvantages involved in it.
So now I would like to give you the advantages and disadvantage being in relationship with foreign man.
- It allows you to travel: If you date a foreign guy, there will be a big possibility for you to travel abroad or to the country where he lives. So if you are someone who loves to travel a lot, then dating a foreign guy might work well for you. Traveling abroad is also a great way for the two of you to bond with each other and get to know each other better.
- Freedom to Spend: Although not all, but most women actually find a foreign guy attractive because of their means to provide for her financial needs. They find foreign guys striking because of their ability to be a responsible partner, which is what every woman would dream of. Most foreign guys are always willing to shoulder the burden of providing for the family’s needs, and thus, as a wife, your job is to mainly stay at home and take care of his kids.
- Cultural Differences: When you date a foreign guy, make sure that you are open to the possibility that you two will have cultural differences, due to your differing beliefs, habits and practices. Because of the cultural differences between the two of you, there will be a big possibility that you will not get along well, which can lead to conflicts and arguments. It is difficult for a relationship to last if the two people involved have different views and approach in life.
- Long-distance Setting: Perhaps you’ve heard about the disadvantages involved in a relationship that is long-distance in nature. This is also true with dating a foreign guy from another country, for you will be physically far from one another. It’s certainly difficult to be far from your loved one, so make sure that you put this in mind, before you decide to hook-up with a foreign guy that lives in a different country.
Even though there are a lot of women who are very happy with their relationship with a foreign guy, such setup actually comes with several disadvantages, too. It is just a matter of how you and your partner will deal with such disadvantages and address whatever issues you two are being faced with. However, if you realize that being with a foreign guy is just not for you, then make sure that you tell your partner about it and be honest with what you feel about your relationship.
That is all what I can share for you. For everyone who is being in relationship with foreign guy, I know you totally pass a great moment with that guy. So happy for you guys! Enjoy every little moment with him, it must be a beautiful moment being with the love ones. Keep spreading the love around the world 🙂
PS; For you who have any experience or currently date a foreign guy let me know how does it work or just let us share each other thru ups and downs in this kinda relationship. Just leave your comment below 😀