Birthday Eve Reflections

Saying goodbye again to January. It’s finally that time when I feel so excited yet nervous at the same time. Yeah, it is January 31th when I’m writing this. And there’s a rare celestial event; super blue blood moon outside. Ha! (Okay, let’s skip this one!) Which means tomorrow is my birthday. But there is something that make today a bit different. Maybe because I don’t look forward to any surprise. I don’t expect anything this year.

If I can, I just want to spend my birthday in a quite place alone. I wanna hide from anyone and reflect on my life. And also think about what I’m gonna do with my life in 24.

Oh God, I’m turning 24 tomorrow! Doesn’t it sound scary? (Well, it doesn’t actually) But I mean I’m an adult now! Which means I’m responsible with every  decisions I take. I’m responsible to myself, to anyone around me.

I got so much to learn in 2017. First time I failed the test. And it was one of the most important things for my career. I got the chance but I failed. It took me quite a while to realize that I need to stop thinking about it and just accept it. And pray for my luck that I will get another chance and will do much better than this. It is when you can accept the things you can’t change that can make you happy. I told myself it’s okay to be sad but then it doesn’t have to be the reason to stop you from moving forward.

Another big thing happened before 2017 ended. I felt so bad, sad and mad. I don’t know why my life feel so miserable. I tried my best to control everything and make it work. But sometimes, you can’t control life. No matter how hard you try. And I try to accept thing that I will never understand why it should happen to me? Why I should be okay with this? Why I can be this stupid? Why can’t I just say no and go?

All these things keep running on my mind. Everyday. it haunts me all day. I try to enjoy my life and say to myself that it will be alright in the end. I will get what I want. Cause my intention is pure and genuine. But there are times when I can’t control my feeling and it makes me feel so bad about myself.

And tomorrow is another new beginning. What  am I gonna do with my new age? They say age is just  a number. But for me it is more than that. And it is finally time when I feel like I haven’t achieved many things in life. But I know there are so many things to be thankful for. I have stable job. I have some of the things that I always wanted to have for  so long. I can travel to places I always dream of. And that’s enough. These are the things to be thankful for. So this year I’m just gonna enjoy the ride.

I will say YES to every new opportunity.

I will accept all the challenge.

I will embrace my perfect imperfection..

I will let the wind takes me to place where I should be..

I will let the sunshine warms up my cold days.

I will let the rain wash away my sadness.

And most importantly,

I will say no to something that hold me back and stop me from growing.

It’s time to show that I deserve to be happy, I deserve to live my life to the fullest. I deserve to get everything I want. And I deserve to love and be loved back equally.

So I welcome you with my arms wide open, smile on my face and so much hope, 24!

With Love,



Two O Eighteen: 2018

Before it becomes too late, let me wish you a Happy New Year! I hope this year brings you a lot of love, happiness and luck. And all your New Year’s Resolutions for 2018 come true.

Today is the first Sunday in 2018. I still can’t believe that it is officially 2018. Lots of things to be thankful for and learn in 2017. It was such a fantastic ride with lots of ups and downs.

Last week I was still in Malang celebrating the New Year’s Eve with the most special person. It was such a beautiful moment to spend the last day of 2017 and start a new beginning of 2018 with him. Well it is another tick off to my 2017 Resolution.

Just like any other New Year, I always make some New Year’s Resolutions. This year, I just hope that I can be a better version of myself, give more and never expect anything in return. I hope that 2018 can be a new beginning for me, that whatever decision I take in 2018 will never make me regret in the future.

And after all the festivities, I’m back to reality. Working my ass off to earn money. I think I’m having that Post Holiday Syndrome. That’s normal and frankly I’m not alone. And now I’m just trying to find something to motivates me. And guess what I feel like I need another holiday (again). So what I know is that we don’t need to go on holiday for long, all we need is to take holiday often.

And I really can’t wait to hop on the plane and explore the world again. Hopefully soon.

Goodnight. Tomorrow is another day.

With Love,



Exploring Malaysia: Day 1

Hello guys, finally got time to check my blog. It’s been ages since the last time I wrote here. Thanks God, it’s long weekend so I can get back to the thing that I like the most, which is writing.

And this time I’m going to write about my recent trip to the nearby country; MALAYSIA!

I told my friends in Malaysia that one day I would come and explore the country with them. And I couldn’t be happier than this. I went to explore the country with one Indonesian friend, she is my college friend. She trusted me to manage the airplane tickets, hotel booking, and stuff. This is like a challenge when you travel with only one friend, to a foreign country you never been to and decide to go with yourself without having the travel agent to help you manage the trips.

It was 5.30 am when I left my house and headed straight to Soekarno-Hatta International Airport Jakarta. I love leaving the house early just to avoid the crazy traffic in Jakarta. And that’s true, it didn’t take much time to arrive there. I arrived at the aiport at around 6.15 am. And then waiting for my friend to arrive. She arrived at almost 7 am and then we decided to have breakfast at the aiport. Our luggages should be checked-in at 7.30 am and we should enter the boarding gate at 07.50 am.

Our flight was delayed for 30 minutes or so. We supposed to arrive at the aiport at 11.20 am but then due to the delay we arrived at Kuala Lumpur International Airport (KLIA 2) at 11.45 am. As soon as our airplane landed in Kuala Lumpur, I got super excited to explore the city. I was welcomed by one of my favourite songs which is a soundtrack of the Beauty and The Beast movie (lol). Oh, the beautiful feeling you get when you are seeing somewhere for the first time swelled all through me, and I welcomed it with open arms. And then we went to Immigration counter and had to wait the line for almost one hour to get all things done. My Arabian friend who currently studying in Malaysia was already in the airport waiting for me. He picked me up at the airport and then we booked Grab Car to my hotel which located in Chinatown, Kuala Lumpur.

It took aound 45 minutes to one hour to reach Chinatown from KLIA 2. As soon as we arrived at the hotel, we put our luggages in our room and went to meet my Arabian friend at the lobby and then we were ready to have lunch around my hotel. God, I made the right decision by choosing to stay in Chinatown as it is heaven for Malaysian culinary. I’ve been craving for Nasi Lemak and I was excited to try it. We had lunch at Indian restaurant which is so close to our hotel. We ordered 3 plates of nasi lemak and we had our own choice for drinks. It didn’t cost us much, only MYR 26 for three persons. How nice! This area is so busy and quite noisy. But I like to stay here as I could explore the city by walking. I want to enjoy the city, stopping by for a picture and then watching the local people doing their daily activities. The culture isn’t much different with my country, Indonesia. I must say that we are very similiar except the fact that there are a lot of Indian and Arabic people here in Malaysia.

After we had lunch we went to Batu Caves which is located in Gombak Districk, Selanggor, Malaysia. It is 13 kilometres north of Kuala Lumpur. My friend suggested me to visit Batu Cave on my second day in the morning so we can avoid the heat during the day , but I refused it as I already had plan for the second day. We took Grab Car again to go to Batu Cave which cost me around MYR 17.

I could already see the Lord Murugan Statue from afar, as it is so big and tall. I was welcomed by the sound of the birds whistling. I couldn’t resist not to take some pictures with them. It was quite tricky, cause I think they felt bothered by me (and other tourists, of course) when we approached to them to take pictures. Finally got some photos taken and we were ready to hiked the 272 stairs to reach the Main Temple. It was very tiring indeed, we had to stop few times before continue our walks up there. I admired the view along the way. The sound of the birds chirping, the monkeys running from one stair to another, swinging from one tree branch to another and also playing with each other. I could hear the splash of the waterfalls. I inhaled the fresh air as I got closer to the waterfalls. It brings so much peace in mind and positive energy. We finally arrived at the top of the cave. I heard the bells from the main temple which attracts people’s attention. I could see the beautiful and bustling city from up there. It’s so beautiful. And life is so beautiful at this moment, indeed. We also went to the Dark Cave but then decided not to go inside cause there must be some creepy animals inside the dark cave. TeeHee.

I then decided to go to KLCC before sunset. This time we took train. The train station isn’t far from Batu Cave, only 10 mins by foot. And we bought some mineral waters which the station operates. There is a machine inside the station which was so easy to operate, Just put your money on the machine and choose what drink you want and then you will get it. We rushed to buy the coins to go to KL Sentral. Less then an hour we finally reached Suriah KLCC. There were so many people in the KLCC Park spending their Friday night with their loved ones while admiring the view of the Petronas Twin Towers.

The Petronas Towers aka Petronas Twin Towers were deisgned by the Argentine Architect, Cesar Pelli. They were the tallest buildings in the world from 1998 to 2004. The Petronas Towers is the landmark of the city along with the KL Tower which located not far from Petronas Towers.

Taking pictures with the Petronas Twin Towers is so tricky. Luckily we had my Arabic friend guiding us to the right spot to take the full lenght of the tower. We walked through the KLCC Park. I really love having random walks in a foreign country. I love listening to the people talking to each other with their native languages. I love the uniqueness of the strangers, the way they use their body languages to talk to others and also they way their langauges sound to my ears. Makes me want to learn more about them, about their languages and their country. Deep inside, I’m still wishing that one day I can get a chance to live in a foreign country.

So happy I got to see the Twin Towers before sunset and right after the sun sets. I love to see the under the perfect pinky skies and also whilst the lights lit up the Towers. Something that’s pleasant to my eyes. We were sitting in the park and waiting till the fountain show. We didn’t have to wait longer, as the fountain show started at 8 pm and we got to enjoy the moment for about 10 minutes. The songs by the famous singer from Malaysia were playing as the backsound of the show. That was a really perfect night.

After watching the fountain show, we headed to Bukit Bintang. It was raining, the roads were wet and quite slippery. We had to stop for few time cause I couldn’t resist to see the glamorous of the city at night. I could see Pavilion Mall, a beautiful fountain in the center of the area, and some famous and luxury brands in those shopping centers. We were stopping by for dinner at Nando’s. Yay, finally got to try their delicious foods. Been wanting to try this African restaurant. We passed by the other one in Suria KLCC but there were too many people in line and I could not imagine how long we should wait to get our meals ready! So we tried the Nando’s at Bukit Bintang. I fell in love with the atmosphere. It was around 10 pm when we finished our dinner. After all the walking we  had, we finally decided to end our day here. Oh, we spent MYR 100 here, which is still so normal for 3 persons.

We went to the station, I had to say bye to my friend as he had to head back to Putrajaya, a nearby city from KL. And my friend, Dina and took a train to Pasar Seni, only one stop away from KL Sentral.

Here’s some pictures I took on my first day in Malaysia.. P.s. Sorry for the bad quality of the pictures. I took them with my iPhone camera and haven’t edited them yet. So, hope you can still enjoy them.

That’s all. It was a fantastic first day in Malaysia. I’m so ready to explore the other part of the country. But for now let’s catch some sleep.

Till then..




Exploring Bandung’s Beauty – Part One

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Hai Bandung! So happy to end this fantastic year with another wonderful trip to one of my favourite cities in Indonesia. We took a midnight roadtrip to Bandung on Friday night. It was rainy but we were too excited for this trip so we didn’t want to cancel our plan (just because the heavy rain!), we left home around 11 PM. We arrived at 3 AM and hiked it all the way to the top of Tebing Keraton to catch the magical sunrise. I have always wanted to visit Tebing Keraton, and so happy to finally tick off this place from my bucketlist. It felt so surreal to be able to see the sun slowly rise over this magical place. So the 3 AM hike was definitely worth the lack of sleep and of course the struggles too. We were the first people who reached the top, so it was like we had this place for ourselves 😀 It was amazing to see this sleepy town covered in thick fog. Yes, I am kinda obsessed with morning fog, especially after following some fellow instagrammers from PNW (Pacific Northwest).

Tebing Keraton is located in the Cimenyan district. The recent increased popularity of the cliff might well be the result of social-media buzz with thousands of visitors posting the location on Instagram. And it was amazing to see some of the daredevils placing themselves very near the edge or high above the rock just to get the best picture for Instagram. You know, it made me want to sit on the edge of the cliff too, but it was too risky, so I decided to take some selfies a little bit far from the edge.

After we had enough of this view, we decided to descend and on our way, we found a Sundanese “warung” selling instant noodles, coffee, tea and local dishes. We were so hungry so we had our breakfast here while basking in the golden morning rays. And again, the view from this warung is so magnificent! The air was so fresh and cold.

It was only 7:30 AM when we back to our car. We wanted to go to Bukit Moko – the highest hill in Bandung. But we were just too tired for another hikes so we decided to drive to our hotel. Anyway, I must say that having my selfie taken on the most talked-about cliff in Bandung somehow feels like an accomplishment 🙂

Looking forward to many more adventures in 2016!




A day at the beach: Carita Beach, Banten

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Fefianist - Carita BeachFefianist - Carita BeachBanten – a little gem in West Java. So happy to be back on the beach again. Believe it or not, the last time I came here was eleven years ago. So when my Mom asked me to spend our weekend here I couldn’t say no, because I really need to escape from Jakarta for a while and I think I deserve a weekend getaway to the beach after quite a stressful moment – proposal thesis defense. Yes, I just passed it a week ago, ooh I’m so happy at least I’ve passed another important test in my final year. Banten is a little town in West Java, it takes 4 hours to reach this town by bus from Jakarta. I came here with my parents and little brother. We arrived here at 10 am.

We were greeted by the warm sunshine, friendly local people and those dreamy blues. I couldn’t wait to say hi to the dancing waves and those charming palm trees. There’s something about being at the beach that’s so healing. I think there’s nothing more beautiful than spending a day off far from the bustling city with family, away from the crowd and having a lovely picnic at the seaside. Oh, this is absolutely a moment to remember.

 After we had lunch, I think I need some “me time”, so I spent my whole afternoon wandering alone, soaking up the sun, taking pictures, singing and dancing. Letting go of everything that has been holding me back. I feel so free, happy and loved. Nature helps me to connect with this powerful, loving presence.

“Every time I stand before a beautiful beach, its waves seem to whisper to me: If you choose the simple things and find joy in nature’s simple treasures, life and living need not be so hard” -Psyche Roxas Mendoza

With Love,


Perfect Sunday Night at the Singapore Riverside (Clarke Quay)

Hello, I’m back now and ready to share with you guys my recent holiday in Clarke Quay, Singapore. Sorry if it took some time since my last post, I’ve been really busy with University life: final exams, assignments and last week I had to submit a BRM proposal. Thanks God, now I get some free time for the next two weeks.

And oh, before I get super busy preparing for the Eid celebration, it’s time to write a post about my amazing night chilling with friends at Clarke Quay, Singapore. So let the story begins!

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Well, after we had dinner at Takashimaya Square and so (yay!) thankfully our lugages were bought by my friend’s Aunt to the apartment, so we could walk easily without having to bring those heavy bags everywhere. We headed to Somerset MRT Station and passed by some famous streets like Orchard Rd and Grange Rd. Had to stop and take some pictures. This time we were accompanied by my friend’s cousin. So happy we shouldn’t have to hold a map on our hand! (Ha ha)

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Creepy look – I know. I loved every step I took on this journey. It was one great night surrounded by good friends and strangers at the same time. The night sky filled with so much joy and happiness, oh I can’t forget how lovely it was – strolling down the streets, taking pictures, having a good conversation with friends. This little heart was filled with gratitude.

Anista Fefiana - Clarke Quay

Clarke Quay is a historical riverside quay in Singapore, located within the Singapore River Planning Area. The quay is situated upstream from the mouth of the Singapore River and Boat Quay. Clarke Quay was named after Sir Andrew Clarke, Singapore’s second Governor and Governor of the Straits Settlements from 1873 to 1875, who played a key role in positioning Singapore as the main port for the Malay states of Perak, Selangor and Sungei Ujong.

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 I like taking tons of pictures while traveling. And share some of them here on the blog and also on my instagram account. I was so surprised when I got a notification that my picture got featured by the Official Singapore Tourism Site, on their instagram account here. What a pleasant surprise to get featured by such great account. I am happy so many people gave me lovely feedback, and my work can inspire them to find places to visit in Singapore.

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Anista Fefiana - Clarke QuayAnother ticked off to my bucketlist. I’ve always wanted to visit this place at night. And so happy I decided to go there on a fine Sunday night when there was a live jazz music performance. As you can imagine, the night vibe here was all so lovely and incredibly awesome. This place way more enchanting and lively at night. I found myself sitting there, at the Singapore Riverside, admiring the captivating – colorful lights, listening to the people’s scream on the bungee jumping ride, and listening to the musics. I couldn’t help myself not to take some pictures and videos of this beautiful place. People come here to escape, to enjoy the night life (yes this place also known as a clubbing district), chilling with friends or their loved one.

Anista Fefiana - Clarke QuayI didn’t realize that it was a famous bridge in Clarke Quay until I came home. Too bad I didn’t take a photo myself, and this one was taken by my friend. You can get that Marina Bay Sands view from this very spot. Oh this picture seems can’t justify its beauty. Does it mean I should come back and take a slow walk in order to get to see this view? Hehe next time, baby!

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A candid picture of me by my friend. Overlooking and capturing the lovely boat at the Singapore Riverside.

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Anista Fefiana - Lock Love CQLOVE. LOVE. LOVE. Love is definitely in the air at Clarke Quay. It was a surprise seeing Locks of Love crammed on one side of The Central mall fence in Clarke Quay. Never knew they have such place. The myth behind the love lock is that when a couple fixes a padlock on a bridge (or in this case, a fence and this Love – sign) and throw away the key, their love for each other will never end. So far, this is the only love lock place I’ve ever been to. Dear future fiancé (whoever you might be), I wouldn’t mind if you take me to love lock on a Paris bridge or the one in Italy, or in the Netherlands and propose me there (hahaha!)

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Anista Fefiana - Clarke QuayI left a piece of my heart in Clarke Quay. Wish one day I can bring my special one here.

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Anista Fefiana - Clarke Quay

Anista Fefiana - Clarke Quay

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Anista Fefiana - Clarke QuayWhen we were about to head back to the apartment in Choa Chu Kang at around 10:30 pm, we passed by this street art filled with beautiful murals. Lovely! Clarke Quay never failed to please me, it was beyond my expectation. We couldn’t help but posing and capturing our moments. The murals here show us about the Singaporean’s life around the Riverside area in the past. Not too far from this spot, I saw a street performer playing a guitar and singing one of my favourite songs so beautifully. I couldn’t exactly remember what song he was playing! But it was one of my Dad’s favourite songs that I used to sing since I was a kid, so it was a song by George Benson “Nothing’s Gonna Change My Love For You” or a song by Richard Marx, “Right Here Waiting”. Oh my, it was a really romantic night.

Artist Statement about Singapore River
Artist Statement about Singapore River

Anista Fefiana - Clarke Quay Anista Fefiana - Clarke Quay Voilá! Now you are at the end of the post. Finally I could finish this post :’) I hope you can enjoy these travel photos and story shared by me. See you on the next posts! 🙂

Yours Truly,



Holiday in Singapore

“The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page.”
– Saint Augustine


Hello world,
So happy to be back on the road again and explore one of my favourite countries – that’s also on my bucket list. Yeah, I just came back after my short-travel to Singapore. You actually do not need to stay for more than a week to explore this whole country. Why? Because this country is very small, so it takes only one to two hours by MRT (Mass Rapid Transit) to go to each region in Singapore. So actually 5 days or a week stay in Singapore is more than enough to get to know many places and things in Singapore.

Packing situation
Packing situation

This is my very first time visiting Singapore, and first time traveling abroad with my friends. Glad to travel with one of my friends who has been there before, so she knows a little bit more about Singapore. We started our journey last week, on the 7th of June 2015. We booked the two- way tickets almost 8 months ago. Yeah, that time I was so desperately in need of holiday, so when I was working and have plenty of time to browse the net I always checked the airline website to get the most updated promo 😀 haha yeah, it was quite frustrating to always keep your eyes on the screen and trying to compare the price for each day. But I do love it. For me, planning a travel is as much interesting as the travel itself. I like organizing things, find interesting places to visit and also arranging things to do. I talked to my friends on a private group conversation and asked them if they want to plan a trip together. It was quite confusing as each of us want to visit different places. I actually voted for Malaysia, because I have so many Malaysian friends who asked me to come there, but at the same time I’m more interested in visiting Singapore. And two friends voted for Bali. I am actually okay with these three options, but when most of them agreed to book tickets to Bali, I told them that it is better for us to visit Singapore together, as the flight to Singapore is way cheaper than the flight to Bali, Indonesia. So I think we should give Singapore a shot. We kept chatting on WhatsApp the whole day – in our separated office, and later in the evening we finally booked five two-way tickets to Singapore. Yay, we were totally excited for this trip!

Flying from Soekarno-Hatta International Airport to Changi Airport, Singapore
Flying from Soekarno-Hatta International Airport to Changi Airport, Singapore

After months by months, weeks by weeks, days by days counting, we finally here on our journey. We met a week before our flight to buy some things we need, booked some tickets to Sentosa Island and discussed many other things related to our trip.

I met so many Indonesian people here. Singapore is really a great place to escape.

 We landed in Changi Airport Singapore after flying an hour and 40 minutes. We were welcomed by the sunshine and hot weather. It was one fun sunny day, and I loved it. We then headed to Arrival Immigration and then we went to ION Orchard to buy simcards and get some food for dinner. I didn’t buy the simcard in Changi, because I read some bad experience from travelers who bought it in the airport. I’ve also read that an Indonesian guy had to pay Rp 1.200.000 for two simcards, just because he couldn’t speak English and he got fooled by the seller.
I am so amazed by the kind and helpful guy at the 7-Eleven that we found in a corner of ION Orchard mega mall, he was both the cashier and the shopkeeper in that counter where we bought our simcard at. I chose SingTel, I paid it for $15  and got the $18 value. He was so patient while explained to us and helped us to registry our simcard even though the queue was totally crazy and he was the only one in that counter. It was very impressive. If you plan a trip to Singapore and wanna buy a simcard, you should come to this guy. Totally recommended! To be honest, he looked not so friendly, but in fact he really is so kind and helpful and nice at the same time, one lesson learned – don’t judge a book by its cover. That is why I love travelling, I get to meet many people along the way and get to know them personally. Amazing experience!

Disembarkation form. Anyway, this is a new design for Indonesian passport
Disembarkation form. Anyway, this is a new design for Indonesian passport

Finally, after hours of walking we met my friend’s Aunt and she came with her husband and three lovely kids. Oh yeah, we actually already booked some rooms around Lavender MRT Station, but my friend’s aunt offered us to stay at her house, so we cancelled our stay at that hotel. Then we had dinner at Pinque Nique, in Takashimaya Square.

Pique Nique - Breakfast spot for dinner, anyone?
Pique Nique – Breakfast spot for dinner, anyone?

After finished our dinner around 9:30 pm, we wanted to go to Clarke Quay and Chinatown. But alas, since we use MRT to go home, and it only operates till 11 pm, so we only visit Clarke Quay. We were accompanied by my friend’s cousin, that was so helpful because it was night and having someone who knows all the MRT routes from Somerset Rd to Clarke Quay and Choa Chu Kang was really a great idea.

I will post and tell the detail about our trip to Clarke Quay on the next post, so don’t miss it out! 🙂

Greetings from Singapore,


Door Duisternis tot Licht: Letters of Javanese Princess

My friends and I when we were in Kindergarten. We dressed up in kebaya to celebrate Kartini's Day.
My friends and I when we were in Kindergarten. We dressed up in kebaya to celebrate Kartini’s Day.

“I have been longing to make the acquaintance of a modern girl, that proud independent girl who has all my sympathy! She who, happy and self reliant, lightly and alertly steps her way through life, full of enthusiasm and warm feelings; working not only for her own well-being and happiness, but for the greater good of humanity as a whole.”

-RA. Kartini

Been wanting to post a story about RA Kartini here on my blog. And today I think it’s the right time to publish this post, as today, on the 21st of April, we Indonesians commemorate the date as “The Day of Kartini”. I’ve read some books that explain many things about her, her spirit, her family and everything in between. This woman, Raden Adjeng Kartini was a prominent Javanese heroine.  She was known as a pioneer in the area of human rights for native Indonesians.
She was a princess from the Island in Java. born on April 21, 1879.  When Kartini was born, Java was still part of the Dutch colonies, the Dutch East Indies.  Her father was the mayor; her mother was his ‘first’ wife. Yes, Polygamy was still a common practice among the nobility, and Kartini experienced first-hand the conflicts and sufferings that arise from this practice.  She was an active person and had a big dream to help Indonesian women to reach their dreams, and the most importantly is to get a proper education. She was lucky to get allowed to study in school until the age of 12, she was allowed to study because she came from an aristocratic family. But it didn’t make her feel superior to her peers, she was so humble and always share her knowledges to all of her friends.

When she was 12, she was pulled from school and ‘secluded’ at home. This was another common practice among nobility to prepare young girls for marriage. But it didn’t make her stop dreaming, she continued to educate herself on her own. She had some penpals in Holland, in her letters,  she expressed her hopes for support from overseas. In her correspondence with Estell “Stella” Zeehandelaar, R.A. Kartini expressed her desire to be like a European youth. She depicted the sufferings of Javanese women fettered by tradition, unable to study, secluded, and who must be prepared to participate in polygamous marriages with men they don’t know.

She actually against the practice of polygamy, but she worshipped her father, so, when her parents arranged her marriage to a man who already had three wives, yes, three wives, she accepted and was married  on November 12, 1903.  Her husband, a liberal, not only continued to allow her to write to her friends, but also assisted her in establishing the first primary school for women in Indonesia.  It was located in her father’s house and children and young women were provided with a basic education. Her first journey into the outside world was to accompany her parents to the festivities held in honour of the coronation of Queen Wilhelmina.

However, her enthusiasm at educating Indonesian girls was to be short-lived.  Kartini’s only son was born on September 13, 1904, and a few days later on September 17, 1904, Kartini died of complications of birth at age 25, but her spirit in Indonesian women’s soul will never die. And we definitely will always remember her as one of the most inspiring Indonesian women.

And after her death, Mr. J. H. Abendanon decided to collect all of her letters—a 106 of letters and published them in 1911 in the Hague under the title, “Door Duisternis tot Licht,” (from Darkness into Light). And in 1922, the first Indonesian translation of her letters were published, translated by Indonesian students who were attending Dutch University under the title: “Habis Gelap Terbitlah Terang”.

I haven’t finished reading those letters, but here’s a few of her penpals in Holland: Nellie van Kool, Zeehandelaar, and Mr. J.H. Abendanon (the Minister of  Culture, Religion and Industry in the Dutch East Indies).

She’s one of my many role models since I was a kid. Her spirit, her hopes, dreams, and her ability to speak foreign language fluently (especially Dutch; the language that I wish I could speak fluently) has inspire and influence me and other Indonesian women.

I can feel her burning spirit on those letters she wrote to her Dutch friends. It teachs me to be a strong-independent woman, to be a woman who never be afraid to speak her mind and to inspire other women in all possible ways.

Usually on Kartini’s Day, women and girls wear traditional clothing (kebaya) to symbolize their unity and participate in costume contests. I remember when I was in Kindergarten till High School I always participated on this contest. I woke up early in the morning, went to salon and dressed up in Kebaya. Went to school and joined the parade. I won the contest for 3 or 4 times, I couldn’t exactly remember. And I got some cups from those contests 😀 Oh, I miss the old days!

So, happy Kartini’s Day to all Indonesian women. Always fight for what you think is right! Let’s continue her spirit, be a woman who can inspire one another and we also should be well-educated, as well as men.

(Sources: some books I’ve read while in Elementary school, Junior High School and Senior High School, some stories my Mom told me during my chilhood (she is a good and accurate story-teller), and some articles I’ve read recently related to Kartini’s letters.)


With love,


Weekend on the beach

"When anxious, uneasy and bad thoughts come, I go to the sea, and the sea drowns them out with its great wide sounds, cleanses me with its noise, and imposes a rhythm upon everything in me that is bewildered and confused".
-Rainer Maria Rilke

Hi, can’t believe that I’ve been blogging for freaking 3 years. My Anniversary with WordPress was 3 days ago 🙂 Time flies so fast. And now, I wanna share something with you.
Last week my friends and I went to the beach. It has been a while since we last met. This time we decided to go exploring the nature and we seriously had a plan to catch a sunset, but…. unfortunately, the weather was so damn bad, it was cloudy and raining in the morning. So, as you might probably guess, we couldn’t see magical sunset on this beach.

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Hi, Mr. Grey. Wait, I mean hey you there Mr. Grey sky, why you look so gloomy?
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Look! There are some hanging clothes on this boat. Oh no.
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We arrived here around 5:30 pm and went home at 8 pm.
It was on Saturday when we came here, no wonder why there were many people along the beach. They usually spend the Saturday night with their loved ones.
It was on Saturday when we came here, no wonder why there were many people along the beach. They usually spend the Saturday night with their loved ones. There are some nice restaurants here, if you want a romantic dinner, don’t forget to give Bandar DJakarta and Seggara Ancol a try. Many people come here to catch sunset while enjoying their dinner.
Please don't expect too much. This city beach isn't like the ones in Bali. No bikinis, no magical sunset, and no clear blue water.
Please don’t expect too much. This city beach isn’t like the ones in Bali. No bikinis, no magical sunset, and no clear blue water.
So here they are my high school friends.
So here they are my high school friends.
We took lots of pictures. Because I am too lazy to upload each of them here, so here it is our memories in one collage. This one made by Christine.
We took lots of pictures. Because I am too lazy to upload each of them here, so here it is our memories in one collage. This one made by Christine.
There is also one romantic cafe around here, it's Le Bridge Ancol. From the outside, Le Bridge looks like an upmarket café, located on a bridge right in front of the beach of Ancol. It is a nice sight since it seems to be on its own island, away from the shore.
There is also one romantic cafe around here, it’s Le Bridge Café, Ancol. From the outside, Le Bridge looks like an upmarket café, located on a bridge right in front of the beach of Ancol. It is a nice sight since it seems to be on its own island, away from the shore.
Ancol is an administrative village in Pademangan District, North Jakarta, Indonesia. It is located in the coastal lowland of Jakarta. Ancol is bounded by Jakarta Bay to the north, Sunda Kelapa harbor to the west, and Kali Japat canal to the east. Ancol contains the main beach resort of Jakarta. Taman Impian Jaya Ancol, the largest integrated tourism area in South East Asia, is located in Ancol.
Ancol is an administrative village in Pademangan District, North Jakarta, Indonesia. It is located in the coastal lowland of Jakarta. Ancol is bounded by Jakarta Bay to the north, Sunda Kelapa harbor to the west, and Kali Japat canal to the east.
Ancol contains the main beach resort of Jakarta. Taman Impian Jaya Ancol, the largest integrated tourism area in South East Asia, is located in Ancol.
Even though this city beach isn't that nice and dirty, but I feel so happy to be here with my friends. So it's not where you go, but who you travel with :)
Even though this city beach isn’t that nice and dirty, but I feel so happy to be here with my friends. So it’s not where you go, but who you travel with 🙂
We walked across the bridge and found this sparkling view. Jakarta can be so peaceful and nice at night. But this city never sleeps. Just like Jason Walker's song:  "This city never sleeps but it sure knows how to sleep tonight. And my heart knows how to beat but it don't know how to beat right. And I can see the streets but I can't see the street signs With my eyes on the sidewalk . I was lost, it was so dark. I'm alone, I'm alive. And my hope still scrapes the sky . Like all these buildings I will try . To leave the world behind until my head is clear Draw a new skyline. and change my atmosphere..."
We walked across the bridge and found this sparkling view. Jakarta can be so peaceful and nice at night. But this city never sleeps. Just like Jason Walker’s song:
“This city never sleeps but it sure knows how to sleep tonight. And my heart knows how to beat but it don’t know how to beat right. And I can see the streets but I can’t see the street signs
With my eyes on the sidewalk . I was lost, it was so dark. I’m alone, I’m alive. And my hope still scrapes the sky . Like all these buildings I will try . To leave the world behind until my head is clear
Draw a new skyline. and change my atmosphere…”



 With love,



Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell
Currently reading: “Eleanor & Park” by Rainbow Rowell

Lately I’ve been thinking about my future. Well, I always think about it though, but it’s getting more serious now. It’s so scary to think about it yet it motivates me to do everything perfectly in order to get the best results. The world is too big to only live in one place. I need to get outta this place; a place that makes me feel so comfort to ever leave it, a place I call-home. The future is too uncertain and sometimes things don’t go the way we want; sure it brings so much fears especially for those who haven’t done their best yet and prepared themselves to the big-real world. I know, it will never be an easy thing when it comes to step out of comfort zone and live far from my family. But I want to give myself a test, how far I can go and explore this so-called beautiful Earth, and see how long I can survive and depend my life on no one but myself, and use my creativity and own ability to solve problems. Thinking and writing about this makes my heart beats so fast, I am so stoked! I cannot wait to see what the future has to offer. I truly cannot wait to meet new people and get along with them. I wanna go beyond my limits, try new things, overcome all my fears, I absolutely want to live my life to the fullest.

And it’s so amazing when you were just seriously thinking about a serious thing aka your future, you suddenly found an amazing person with inspirational words that make you feel so motivated. Well today I stumbled upon Emily Thomas’s account. Who is she? Okay,  she is a writer, she’s a Contributor of the Huffington Post, a motivational speaker (no wonder why her words are so motivating), she based in Seattle, Washington and San Diego, California. So happy I could find another inspiring account on this Instagram world. Mostly I spend much time checking this social networking site, I think I need to find people who can inspire me and shape me to be a better person inside and out. So it’s okay to spend time on Instagram while you can also learn something from it, right? Emily is one of the most amazing people I’ve found on Instagram. So glad that we are following each other now,both on twitter and instagram. As a new follower, I stalked her pictures and read those magical words (sorry for being too creepy, Emily!). Damn, I am so amazed by the way she thinks and inspire people. Her words are so extraordinary and magical. And this is one of my favourites:


I think one of the best things my travels have taught me that we have the ability to make our life what we want it to be. I have the ability every day to decide that I could either stay home and do nothing, or get up and explore. Our life is not a product of our circumstance, but a reflection of our choices.
Every day, we have the ability to choose to do something that will make us smarter. You can read. You can engage in a conversation that evokes new ideas. You can push the edge just a little further.
Imagine if, every day you did is something like that. Imagine the collective result of those tiny changes. It’s incorporating every day habits that will eventually manifest into greatness.
We often put so much pressure on accomplishing big things, that we tend to forget that small acts combined are what propel us forward.
What little things will you do?

These words resonate within me. That’s so deep and I can’t get these out of my mind. When I feel so inspired like this, there is nothing better I can do than to put pen to paper, or get my laptop and start writing.
PS, as I feel so energised and motivated now, I think it’s a great time to start making a list about the things I want to do for my final project. (Yeah do it now, Fefi. The sooner you graduate, the better!)

Whoever reading this post, I hope you have a wonderful day or night. Who knows that you might also have inspired me in some ways! 🙂

With Love,